Blueprint | November 10, 2023
Type One: Common romantic pairings

What are the most common romantic pairings for Enneagram type 1s?

Female 1s most often marrying 5s, 7s, 9s, and 2, and Male 1s most often marrying 2s, 7s, 4s, and 6s (in that order)

Certain type 1 pairings are more common than others, though any type combination can occur and thrive. The marriage data we compiled and analyzed was broken down by gender, with Female 1s most often marrying 5s, 7s, 9s, and 2s, and Male 1s most often marrying 2s, 7s, 4s, and 6s (in that order).

Female 5s are less common overall, which is why we may see a gender difference.

When we remove gender as a variable, 1s overall most often marry 7s, 2s, and 5s, and least often marry 3s, 8s, and 1s. All type combinations bring shared and unique elements to the relationship!

Most common:

1s and 7s share idealism, productivity, activity. 1s bring conscientiousness, discipline, stability, while 7s bring positivity, spontaneity, acceptance. 1s and 2s share altruism, purpose, duty. 1s bring logic-orientation, stability, conscientiousness, while 2s bring warmth, affection, acceptance. 1s and 5s share competence, philosophy, passion. 1s bring practicality, balance, polish, while 5s bring curiosity, depth, raw authenticity.


1s and 4s share idealism, vision, purpose. 1s bring logic-orientation, discipline, stability, while 4s bring emotional depth, creativity, spontaneity. 1s and 6s share wit, conscientiousness, vales. 1s bring decisiveness, action, idealism, while 6s bring analysis, sentimentality, intimacy. 1s and 9s share endurance, self-improvement, altruism. 1s bring conviction, realism, purpose, while 9s bring acceptance, positivity, harmony.

Least common:

1s and 3s share competence, self-improvement, poise. 1s bring integrity, thoroughness, realism, while 3s bring charm, action, optimism. 1s and 8s share justice, decisiveness, purpose. 1s bring polish, thoroughness, idealism, while 8s bring raw authenticity, practicality, vitality. 1s and 1s share idealism, conscientiousness, self-improvement. 1s bring balance, polish, philosophy, while other 1s bring passion, productivity, impact.

Sources: "Are You My Type, Am I Yours?" by Elizabeth Wagele and Renee Baron,, and our own internal survey data.